What always happens before you find out you are a sex addict

Craig Perra came through sex and porn addiction himself and now coaches other men out of it. This is a different kind of conversation from most on the show, because there is no substance involved, and the shame around it keeps people quiet for years.

We talk about how behavioural addiction works, the trauma and the shame underneath it, and what it does to intimacy in a marriage. He also makes the case that AI girlfriends are about to turn this into a twenty-billion-dollar problem.

What changed his own approach was mindfulness, Internal Family Systems and parts work, purpose, and actually understanding why people behave the way they do. He runs The Mindful Habit System.